18 Nov 2009

As some of you may already know, I have recently had a new baby! She is 3 months old now and an img_7056incredible joy. It’s funny how my husband gets to experience this incredible joy without the joy of cellulite, weight gain, soft tummy and many more amazing details that are just too special to share. Don’t get me wrong, I am loving the experience of being a new mommy again, especially after 15 years. We have been so blessed with a good sleeper and she really is quite easy.
What isn’t so easy is the aftermath. Worse having to see the stars like Heidi Klum push out her 4th baby and walk the run way like she is Miss Universe! What is that? I’ll tell you what it is…it’s unrealistic. I guess some people are just lucky but really this is not the way it goes for the masses.
Moments after Miss Noa made her appearance into the world I was already working on my get-fit-quick plan. Hey I know, some people don’t care or figure that it will all work itself out. I’m not one of those people. On the way home from the hospital I stopped for a quick blow dry. I mean seriously, do you know the amount of company a new baby can bring. It’s all very overwhelming. I was also dying for my Botox treatment…9 months seemed like 30 without my Botox!!! Yes I am of the age of vanity. I wanted my baby but I didn’t want to lose myself in the process. I think this is an issue for a lot of 30 somethings having their babies later in life. We are working women with careers and interests and vanity…and for the most part we want to have it all. Is this reasonable? I say yes. There has to be a balance with anything in order for one to be happy. Unfortunately for a women balancing family, work and ones self can be an all encompassing challenge that seems insurmountable. What is the answer? I guess it would be to take time for yourself, even if it’s 20 minutes to luxuriate in a hot shower or to walk around the block. I know what your thinking? How will this make me beautiful? Putting all the vanity aside for a moment, feeling good will help you feel beautiful. A lot of us have our kids and feel guilty for taking even a moment away from them. I don’t think this is reasonable. We all have needs and picking whats important for you and maintaining it will help you feel better and more effective to take care of your mommy, wife, housekeeping, work and life duties. Without it, we lose ourselves. Is it worth the cost? I don’t think so. I for one want my daughters to grow up to think of their mommy as a strong, effective, hard working, loving, beautiful women who can do it all. I don’t want them to associate motherhood and marriage as the end…but only the beginning.
So after baby I say beauty is what you make it. It’s your kickboxing class or your coffee break. It’s your ‘you’ time. The part of your day that you make sure to hang on to the woman you were before you were someone’s mommy or wife.
Being a mommy is fantastic but so is being me. I plan to be both.

Till next time, stay beautiful!
xoxo, Shawn


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